Move Over Mom, You’re Blocking Dad.

By Bronwyn in Adopting moms, Cape Town Moms Abroad, Expecting Moms, Moms, Stay-at-home moms, Working moms on 06 6th, 2009 | no responses

My mother is the queen of “notable quotables”. I fear that my seven month old has heard the phrase “cutting the apron strings” too frequently in his flash of life and has sadly decided that this is not a bad idea. Once upon a time, two months ago, he would look at me with love and adoration. My movements were closely monitored under his watchful eye. He would want me near all the time and others would even comment at how he seems to need nothing else other than his mom. Yes, I know he liked others but I knew that it was my voice and smell he knew best.

When I first noticed he was making the adoration eyes at “the other parent”, I was in denial. I thought- he’ll never replace me, I make his food, clean his clothes- he needs me! Oh, but was I wrong?! I noticed there were more giggles coming out of the bathroom and bathtime was now reaching a full 30 minutes with “the other parent”. I was too busy with other things to notice what was happening. The next thing I knew, he wasn’t cuddling me as much anymore and sometimes when I hold out my arms for him to come to me, he turns away  in order to stay with “the other parent”.

I tried to spruce up our time together, making it more fun, more spontaneous, but it’s just not the same as it was. I know he loves me. He smiles when he sees me and loves my kisses still but something’s different. He’s not all mine anymore…

He’s ours now…and by typing that statement, I’ve just had closure!